Thursday, 27 January 2011
Falling in Love with Baseball – The Origin Story
Originally posted at The Reviews Are In
When I was 5 years old I fell in love for the very first time. I don’t remember exactly how it started, probably with a small crush and then as the exposure grew and we spent more time together things blossomed and things became much more serious.
No, I’m not talking about the little girl 1 grade older than me that I followed around as often as possible at recess and in the hallways.
I’m talking about baseball.
This isn’t news to those of you who know me. Baseball is clearly my first love. I geek out about a lot of things and I love a lot of sports. But nothing compares to the way I feel about baseball.
When I was small my parents would take my brother and I to my grand-parents’ house to visit. And in the summer the only place that you were going to find my grand-dad was in the basement, with the lights off, watching baseball. In fact, there were many afternoons that 1 game would be on TV and be muted while a 2nd game would be on the radio. That was confusing for a young kid. But I loved it. I would sit there for hours on end watching (in silence, that was the rule) as the players on TV did their thing. That’s where I learned both the basics and the subtle nuances. That basement was my classroom.
I loved that basement and spent a lot of time down there when I moved into that house at 18. I can tell you exactly where everything was, the TV in the front left corner, the wood stove in the front right. The 2 lazy boys ¾’s of the way back in the room, the one on the left for my grand-dad and the one on the right for whomever was visiting. And at the back of the room, against the wall, was an old couch, older than me that we sat on if we weren’t on my dad’s knee.
That room is where I started falling in love with baseball.
Around that time I also started playing organized ball. My mom and dad were my first coaches and looking back I have NO IDEA how they managed to do it. The team was a bunch of 5-7 year old kids. Most of who had little to no idea what they were doing on the field. I’m sure at times it was the stereo-typical scene with kids picking dandelions in the outfield and running the wrong way around the bases. But I don’t remember those details. I remember playing first base. I remember practicing. I remember losing. A lot. And I remember having fun. I loved it. I loved my glove. I loved my little red wooden bat. I loved being at the ball park. I loved spending the time with my family. I loved everything about those summers.
As I grew older I fell deeper and deeper. I spent my allowance money on baseball cards. I watched games on TV. I fell asleep listening to radio broadcasts. There was nothing that would stop me from being with baseball. She meant the world to me. The sooner that everyone figured that out, the better.
I practiced more, with my mom or dad or brother or friends or alone. I threw a ball against the wall and caught it. I threw a ball up in the air and hit it. I did everything that I could be become a better player. And the best part was that it rarely felt like work. Nobody had to force me to do it. I did because I loved it.
True story: I chipped my front tooth when I threw a ball straight up in the air, lost it in the sun and caught it with my mouth. It hurt. But it didn’t stop me from loving.
My mom even tells a story from my childhood about me telling everyone that when I grew up I was going to be a policeman and a first baseman. But neither of my employers could know about the other. I have no idea why it needed to be a secret – but I think that just makes the story more awesome!
I know that this whole post is really just a love letter to baseball in disguise. And trust me – it could go on for a very, very long time.
In fact, one of the bullet points on my writing to-do list says something about a baseball book.
But for now I think you get the point.
And as for the end of the story – there isn’t one – not yet. But if I were to guess I would say that this is a love that goes on forever.
Sunday, 23 January 2011
Channel Surfing for Sports - A Guide
Originally posted at FanShots.com
I love my cable sports package. It’s awesome. And I don’t throw the word awesome around lightly. Every month I pay for and receive the NHL Network, ESPN Classic, CBS College Sports, FOX Sports World, the Fight Network, The Golf Channel, GOLTV, MLB Extra Innings, NASCAR Hot Pass, NBA League Pass, NFL Sunday Ticket, NHL Center Ice and College Basketball and Football – did you catch all of that? It’s a lot of sports.
Here’s the thing though, there is rarely a time when there is only 1 game on TV out of all of those channels. Usually there are at least 3 different things that I could be watching at any given time.
That’s where the art of channel surfing comes in. A lot of people channel surf. Or at least they do what they think is channel surfing.
There are a few things that one has to keep in mind when trying to juggle multiple games on different channels at the same time.
1. The Recall button. This is important, but not as important as you may think at first. If you are only watching 2 games and have no other need to check other channels at all from the start to finish of the contests the recall button is a fantastic tool to aide you in your sports viewing experience. However, don’t learn to rely on it too heavily as there will come a time when it no longer does the job that you require of it.
2. If you are working more than 2 channels at a time you will need more than just the recall button to get the job done. Here’s my suggestion – write it all down. On a Sunday afternoon during the NFL’s regular season there can be up to 5 games on at 1 time. There’s no way I’m going to remember which channel all of those games are on. But, jotting down the game and channel number on a scrap piece of paper or, even better, a white board means that you will always know where you’re going around the dial. It may sound lame to you but just think about it – time and aggravation saved is always a good thing.
3. Don’t get too sucked into 1 game. It’s true that most nights there is going to be 1 game that is more important or more interesting or more entertaining than the others – but you never know what you will miss if you don’t bounce back and forth to check it out. March Madness is a great example. It is way too easy to get sucked into whichever game Gus Johnson is calling – but if we’re talking about round 1 you can’t just listen to Gus and get sucked in. You have to remember to go back and check the scores of the other games. At some point Gus isn’t going to be calling the most intense match-up… it’s bound to happen. And you have to be ready for that.
4. If you’re worried about getting sucked into a specific game keep this in mind for a trick to remind yourself that there’s more going on – Watch the Ticker! That’s it. Simple. Pretty much everyone has a ticker scrolling across the screen these days. That means that you can keep an eye on what’s going on in the rest of the world and can change to the other games as necessary. The ticker will also let you know (in most cases) what the clock situation is in the games that are in the crawl. That means that you can decide when to change over. Or you can see that it is halftime/intermission and you don’t need to waste your time with that game for a while. The ticker is one of the greatest inventions for sports fans of the last generation. Don’t let it go to waste.
5. Plan your breaks. This can be hard. When you have multiple games on multiple channels and even with multiple sports in play there may never be a moment when there isn’t game action. However, at some point you are going to need to go to the washroom or let the dog out or smoke or pour a drink or get something to eat. It’s tough. I won’t lie. But here is my suggestion – pick the game that you are having the most fun with and use that as your timer. If you care most about 1 game and you can make sure that you won’t miss any of it you make that happen. If you have to leave the couch/chair during game action this seems to be the best solution.
At the end of the day there is no reason that you can’t enjoy more than 1 game at a time if you so choose. The channels will be broadcasting them, the announcers will be calling them and you’ll be sitting in your favorite spot with the remote control in your hand.
Make the effort to maximize your efficiency and there’s no limit to how many games you can enjoy each month with your cable package!
I love my cable sports package. It’s awesome. And I don’t throw the word awesome around lightly. Every month I pay for and receive the NHL Network, ESPN Classic, CBS College Sports, FOX Sports World, the Fight Network, The Golf Channel, GOLTV, MLB Extra Innings, NASCAR Hot Pass, NBA League Pass, NFL Sunday Ticket, NHL Center Ice and College Basketball and Football – did you catch all of that? It’s a lot of sports.
Here’s the thing though, there is rarely a time when there is only 1 game on TV out of all of those channels. Usually there are at least 3 different things that I could be watching at any given time.
That’s where the art of channel surfing comes in. A lot of people channel surf. Or at least they do what they think is channel surfing.
There are a few things that one has to keep in mind when trying to juggle multiple games on different channels at the same time.
1. The Recall button. This is important, but not as important as you may think at first. If you are only watching 2 games and have no other need to check other channels at all from the start to finish of the contests the recall button is a fantastic tool to aide you in your sports viewing experience. However, don’t learn to rely on it too heavily as there will come a time when it no longer does the job that you require of it.
2. If you are working more than 2 channels at a time you will need more than just the recall button to get the job done. Here’s my suggestion – write it all down. On a Sunday afternoon during the NFL’s regular season there can be up to 5 games on at 1 time. There’s no way I’m going to remember which channel all of those games are on. But, jotting down the game and channel number on a scrap piece of paper or, even better, a white board means that you will always know where you’re going around the dial. It may sound lame to you but just think about it – time and aggravation saved is always a good thing.
3. Don’t get too sucked into 1 game. It’s true that most nights there is going to be 1 game that is more important or more interesting or more entertaining than the others – but you never know what you will miss if you don’t bounce back and forth to check it out. March Madness is a great example. It is way too easy to get sucked into whichever game Gus Johnson is calling – but if we’re talking about round 1 you can’t just listen to Gus and get sucked in. You have to remember to go back and check the scores of the other games. At some point Gus isn’t going to be calling the most intense match-up… it’s bound to happen. And you have to be ready for that.
4. If you’re worried about getting sucked into a specific game keep this in mind for a trick to remind yourself that there’s more going on – Watch the Ticker! That’s it. Simple. Pretty much everyone has a ticker scrolling across the screen these days. That means that you can keep an eye on what’s going on in the rest of the world and can change to the other games as necessary. The ticker will also let you know (in most cases) what the clock situation is in the games that are in the crawl. That means that you can decide when to change over. Or you can see that it is halftime/intermission and you don’t need to waste your time with that game for a while. The ticker is one of the greatest inventions for sports fans of the last generation. Don’t let it go to waste.
5. Plan your breaks. This can be hard. When you have multiple games on multiple channels and even with multiple sports in play there may never be a moment when there isn’t game action. However, at some point you are going to need to go to the washroom or let the dog out or smoke or pour a drink or get something to eat. It’s tough. I won’t lie. But here is my suggestion – pick the game that you are having the most fun with and use that as your timer. If you care most about 1 game and you can make sure that you won’t miss any of it you make that happen. If you have to leave the couch/chair during game action this seems to be the best solution.
At the end of the day there is no reason that you can’t enjoy more than 1 game at a time if you so choose. The channels will be broadcasting them, the announcers will be calling them and you’ll be sitting in your favorite spot with the remote control in your hand.
Make the effort to maximize your efficiency and there’s no limit to how many games you can enjoy each month with your cable package!
Friday, 14 January 2011
Thursday, 13 January 2011
Sports Gambling with Friends It's Risky
Originally posted at FanShots
I love gambling on sports, it’s one of my favorite vices. I wish I could afford to do it more (or better). And I decided that I wanted to see how everyone felt about the subject so I posed the question on Twitter: “alright kids, question time: how do you feel about betting on sports w/ friends?”
The very first answer I got didn’t surprise me at all: “@shankell: @phjoshua awesome, when I win. :)”
I searched the internet for pieces about betting with friends, I wanted to see if anyone had written about their experiences losing money to or taking money from their friends. I’ll be honest, I’d never thought about it before.
My gambling with friends “career” started young. I’m not ashamed of it, I never let it get out of control and I even won a little bit. Not a bad way to be introduced to the world of gaming.
I won my first “pick ‘em” NFL pool in the fall of 1995 when I was in grade 8. I don’t remember how many games I picked right, but I remember that I collected $5 each from the 9 other guys in the pool. It was the only win I had for the season, but it paid for me to play most of the year as well. And winning is like your first hit, you’ll chase it forever.
Later in that same school year I gave out my first point spread to a classmate when Kentucky beat Syracuse in the 1996 NCAA Men’s Basketball Championship game. I collected my money. I didn’t feel bad about it. She was the one who accepted the bet; I even gave her more points than Vegas gave. I was that sure about the bet, I was right.
My favorite gambling with friends night came in 2002 when the New England Patriots beat the St. Louis Rams 20-17. That night we sat in a group at a table at the campus bar and drank cheap beer and ate bad nachos from kick-off to the last whistle. $1 beers were on the line all night long as we wagered on the coin toss, length of the National Anthem, first pass, first touchdown and I think the final score. That was a good night. Nobody lost every bet. Nobody lost too much money. And nobody lost any friends.
In fact, I’ve never felt bad about a bet that I’ve made with a friend. I’ve felt bad about losing, but I don’t bet my money unless I believe that I have a chance to win. That’s just common sense. I’ve also never let myself be bullied into a bet that would embarrass me. I don’t mind making non-monetary wagers, but when the loser has to do something that they aren’t comfortable with, nobody really wins. That’s when hurt feelings and resentment come into play. Not fun.
This brings me to my next point, don’t bet if you can’t afford to/ handle/ deal with losing. There is always, ALWAYS, a chance that you are going to lose your bet. It doesn’t matter what the odds are or how certain you are, you could lose. And if you lose you need to be prepared to honor your bets. That’s the way it works. If you agree to a wager you need to be gracious in victory and defeat. That’s not to say that you can’t be happy about winning and even brag a little bit… that’s half the fun, but don’t be a dick about it.
So, who wants to make a bet?
Wednesday, 12 January 2011
Co-Ed Sports Viewing Parties - A Guide
Originally posted at FanShots
The other day I wrote a piece for the dudes about watching sports with your girl. Today we’re going to go to co-ed group sports viewing. Don’t roll your eyes at me! This is a great friggin’ opportunity to enjoy the game and the company of people that you dig at the same time.
There are a few things that can make all the difference in the world when it comes to co-ed sports viewing parties. I’m not a big fan of claiming that any one of them are more important than the others, that’s for you and your group to decide based on personalities and such, but I wouldn’t skip any of these things if I were putting something together.
Food!
Food is very important in these situations. While it may be cool to order a pizza and some wings when you have the guys over (and for some girls as well) you can do a lot better for the same price (OR LESS). Before you have everyone over hit the grocery store and grab some frozen goodies that you can put together in the oven and serve as the day/night goes on.
I’m talking about everything you love. Chicken wings, nuggets, taquitos, fries, onion rings, sausage rolls, breaded shrimp or anything else that you know and love. But that’s not all! Grab some chips and salsa, they’re cheap, easy and a proven crowd pleaser. Or how about some cheese and pickles, whatever you don’t eat with the gang stays in your fridge and gets eaten later. If you don’t want to do breaded shrimp in the oven you can always go with a shrimp ring. And if you have some time before the crowd comes over I have an appetizer that always goes well – bacon wrapped water chestnuts. It’s crazy easy. All you have to do is open and drain a can of water chestnuts, wrap each one in about a 1/3 of a piece of bacon, stick a toothpick through each piece and let them sit in the oven until the bacon is cooked. Don’t let them get too crispy though, because the bacon will break and ruin the wrapping job. There are a million options that can work for you my friends.
Note: Dudes, having some raw veggies is always a good idea. Makes you look a little more grown up and capable of taking care of yourself.
Booze!
Almost as important as the food is the booze in my opinion. The best low-key get-togethers usually have an element of BYOB to them. This way everyone gets to drink what they enjoy. But if you want to make sure that everything is ready to go you can always pick up a case of beer that you know everyone will enjoy even if it’s not everyone’s fav. Again, like the cheese and pickles, you get to keep the leftovers! If you have wine drinkers in the crowd go out and buy a bottle of something semi-nice. There’s no need to spend a ton, but they’ll be happy (the ladies I’m talking about here).
If there are going to be people drinking liquor remember to have various mix options available to them. There’s little worse than showing up at a party with a great bottle of rum and then realizing that you’ve got nothing to mix it with. You can make sure that doesn’t happen. It is in your power!
Note: Mix also doubles as your non-alcoholic drink options for the designated drivers in the group.
Seating!
Where everyone sits is going to happen organically. Couples will sit with each other. Single girlfriends may end up close on the couch. The dudes who are really into the game may be sitting close so that they can analyze every play. And in most cases the seating arrangements will change throughout the course of the event. That’s the best case scenario. Everyone gets to mingle with the people that they want to see and it’s a grand old time.
The key is making sure that you have seating options available for everyone. If that means bringing chairs into the living room from the kitchen table, so be it. Just make sure that everyone has a spot to be comfortable while they eat and drink and watch the game. If they don’t things can get awkward and people will inevitably be weary of leaving their seats for fear that they are going to be taken while they’re vacant.
You don’t want this shindig to turn into a game of musical chairs.
Fun and Games!
More than anything you want to make sure that everyone is enjoying themselves while the group is together and the game is on. I’m a big fan of making bets within the group. You don’t have to put any money on the line, bragging rights are always a great prize among friends. I also dig small things that can get a smile out of people. I have a red spinning light that I pull out for hockey games so when my team scores (or a friend’s rival team scores) we can turn the light on as part of our celebration. You can do the same thing with foam fingers, touchdown dances, home run calls or anything that you think will get the job done. You want to keep things light and fun. There may be a serious game on the TV that you care totally into – but a serious party is never as memorable as a fun party. Even if you’re just watching the game.
A Sense of Humor!
If you and the people that are getting together to watch the game don’t have this you might as well cancel now. Someone is going to say something stupid. Someone’s team is going to make a terrible play. Someone is going to lose a bet. Someone might even get pretty intoxicated and feel like they have an opportunity to entertain the crowd. In all of these cases the group is going to need to be able to laugh.
If you can put these things together I promise that your coed sports viewing parties will improve dramatically. You’ll look like a great host. Your friends will all be able to relax (game outcome permitting) and enjoy each other’s company. Everyone will eat and drink and be merry. And at the end of the night you’ll know that you were awesome!
Let me know how it works for you. And upload or send your pictures from your home sports viewing parties.
The other day I wrote a piece for the dudes about watching sports with your girl. Today we’re going to go to co-ed group sports viewing. Don’t roll your eyes at me! This is a great friggin’ opportunity to enjoy the game and the company of people that you dig at the same time.
There are a few things that can make all the difference in the world when it comes to co-ed sports viewing parties. I’m not a big fan of claiming that any one of them are more important than the others, that’s for you and your group to decide based on personalities and such, but I wouldn’t skip any of these things if I were putting something together.
Food!
Food is very important in these situations. While it may be cool to order a pizza and some wings when you have the guys over (and for some girls as well) you can do a lot better for the same price (OR LESS). Before you have everyone over hit the grocery store and grab some frozen goodies that you can put together in the oven and serve as the day/night goes on.
I’m talking about everything you love. Chicken wings, nuggets, taquitos, fries, onion rings, sausage rolls, breaded shrimp or anything else that you know and love. But that’s not all! Grab some chips and salsa, they’re cheap, easy and a proven crowd pleaser. Or how about some cheese and pickles, whatever you don’t eat with the gang stays in your fridge and gets eaten later. If you don’t want to do breaded shrimp in the oven you can always go with a shrimp ring. And if you have some time before the crowd comes over I have an appetizer that always goes well – bacon wrapped water chestnuts. It’s crazy easy. All you have to do is open and drain a can of water chestnuts, wrap each one in about a 1/3 of a piece of bacon, stick a toothpick through each piece and let them sit in the oven until the bacon is cooked. Don’t let them get too crispy though, because the bacon will break and ruin the wrapping job. There are a million options that can work for you my friends.
Note: Dudes, having some raw veggies is always a good idea. Makes you look a little more grown up and capable of taking care of yourself.
Booze!
Almost as important as the food is the booze in my opinion. The best low-key get-togethers usually have an element of BYOB to them. This way everyone gets to drink what they enjoy. But if you want to make sure that everything is ready to go you can always pick up a case of beer that you know everyone will enjoy even if it’s not everyone’s fav. Again, like the cheese and pickles, you get to keep the leftovers! If you have wine drinkers in the crowd go out and buy a bottle of something semi-nice. There’s no need to spend a ton, but they’ll be happy (the ladies I’m talking about here).
If there are going to be people drinking liquor remember to have various mix options available to them. There’s little worse than showing up at a party with a great bottle of rum and then realizing that you’ve got nothing to mix it with. You can make sure that doesn’t happen. It is in your power!
Note: Mix also doubles as your non-alcoholic drink options for the designated drivers in the group.
Seating!
Where everyone sits is going to happen organically. Couples will sit with each other. Single girlfriends may end up close on the couch. The dudes who are really into the game may be sitting close so that they can analyze every play. And in most cases the seating arrangements will change throughout the course of the event. That’s the best case scenario. Everyone gets to mingle with the people that they want to see and it’s a grand old time.
The key is making sure that you have seating options available for everyone. If that means bringing chairs into the living room from the kitchen table, so be it. Just make sure that everyone has a spot to be comfortable while they eat and drink and watch the game. If they don’t things can get awkward and people will inevitably be weary of leaving their seats for fear that they are going to be taken while they’re vacant.
You don’t want this shindig to turn into a game of musical chairs.
Fun and Games!
More than anything you want to make sure that everyone is enjoying themselves while the group is together and the game is on. I’m a big fan of making bets within the group. You don’t have to put any money on the line, bragging rights are always a great prize among friends. I also dig small things that can get a smile out of people. I have a red spinning light that I pull out for hockey games so when my team scores (or a friend’s rival team scores) we can turn the light on as part of our celebration. You can do the same thing with foam fingers, touchdown dances, home run calls or anything that you think will get the job done. You want to keep things light and fun. There may be a serious game on the TV that you care totally into – but a serious party is never as memorable as a fun party. Even if you’re just watching the game.
A Sense of Humor!
If you and the people that are getting together to watch the game don’t have this you might as well cancel now. Someone is going to say something stupid. Someone’s team is going to make a terrible play. Someone is going to lose a bet. Someone might even get pretty intoxicated and feel like they have an opportunity to entertain the crowd. In all of these cases the group is going to need to be able to laugh.
If you can put these things together I promise that your coed sports viewing parties will improve dramatically. You’ll look like a great host. Your friends will all be able to relax (game outcome permitting) and enjoy each other’s company. Everyone will eat and drink and be merry. And at the end of the night you’ll know that you were awesome!
Let me know how it works for you. And upload or send your pictures from your home sports viewing parties.
Friday, 7 January 2011
Thursday, 6 January 2011
Watching Sports With Your Girlfriend/Wife - A Short Guide
Originally posted at FanShots
Just a few minutes ago a friend sent me a text message with an idea for a post. Here’s how the exchange went…
Friend: Why not talk about women and sports?
Friend: The type of women who likes them... And how to include your girlfriend in your viewing experiences at home
Friend: Because I have always wanted to get into it… But my boyfriends never included me.
Me: Idiots... You have dated some real idiots.
Friend: I know right?!
The quick convo got me to thinking about what dudes can do if their girlfriends and wives want to be included. Because if they do want to watch and you don’t make them feel welcome there’s a strong chance that resentment and anger and a real pain in your ass is on the way.
Now, the friend that I was talking to about the subject is also a great hostess and loves to do the game day meals and drinks and all of that good stuff. I’m talking about chili and nachos and fries and beer and EVERYTHING. That makes her the easiest type of woman to invite to watch the game. She’s willing to bring food and drinks and take care of pretty much everything but the remote control while you enjoy all of life’s wonders. If you have this chance gentlemen you are a fool not to take it.
The best way to get that type of girl included and involved in your sports watching traditions is to let it be her idea. Let her be the planner. Let the Type A takeover. In the end it’s all for the best. Do that thing that women do to us all the time and plant the seed and see what happens. The worst case scenario is that you watch the game on the couch alone with beer and pizza, just like you were going to in the first place.
It isn’t always this cut and dry though. There can be downsides to having your female companion accompany you in your viewing time. While she may be very enthusiastic about the opportunity to spend quality time with you or watch the game or just relax there is a possibility that you will be playing teacher. There are some of us that are a lot better at this than others. It can be hard. There’s no debating that at all. It can be a test of patience, love and will-power. But, if you can pull it off. If you can keep your cool and help her out I promise that there is a pot of gold waiting at the end of that rainbow. The questions will gradually become fewer. And as they become fewer they will also become less basic and more interesting. You will be able to explain things in more advanced terms and express your opinions with regards to the situations she’s asking about.
Note: I’m fully aware that there are many, many women out there who love and understand sports and can stat gab and wax poetic about the advantages of a 3-4 defense as opposed to a 4-3. This isn’t about you. Keep up the good work!
The best thing to do is set up some easy to follow ground rules. 1st and most important is that questions need to be held until commercial breaks or time outs. It’s a simple rule, there’s nothing complicated about it. It means that you don’t miss any live game action and she still gets her questions answered. There’s also a chance that by waiting the TV commentary will provide the answer for her and you don’t have to worry about the question at all.
Another ground rule may pertain to channel surfing. This can be incredibly important as during both the regular season and playoffs there’s a strong possibility of multiple games being on at the same time. It is vital that your S.O. knows that you will be changing channels. The sticky part here is that she may not understand why each game is important to you. This is your opportunity to talk about point spreads or fantasy players or even just more intense and entertaining match-ups. Or you can not explain anything and just watch and enjoy the game. If she doesn’t push for information there’s no need for you to volunteer it and make yourself look like a giant geek. It’s not always looked upon as favorably as we hope.
Lastly, I have a recommendation – bet with your girl. Keep it fun. Don’t bet money. And win as much as you can. If she is a novice in the sporting world you have every right to take advantage of that. Go for it. If she knows what she’s talking about you had better bring you’re A game. Because if she starts beating you I can promise that she will tell her friends and your friends and it will not be pretty.
In the end my friends the upside remains a much bigger payoff than the downside is a detriment. There is one last thing that you want to make sure that your lady understands… if game night or Sunday afternoon football or whatever is your decompress, alone, relax, let the world float away time you still deserve to have some of that. Don’t be bitchy about it, but have the conversation with her and explain your position and make sure that all of your sports watching time doesn’t become a couples event.
If you can find the line and make this work I can promise that you will have success. If you don’t we can all blame my friend. It was her idea.
Just a few minutes ago a friend sent me a text message with an idea for a post. Here’s how the exchange went…
Friend: Why not talk about women and sports?
Friend: The type of women who likes them... And how to include your girlfriend in your viewing experiences at home
Friend: Because I have always wanted to get into it… But my boyfriends never included me.
Me: Idiots... You have dated some real idiots.
Friend: I know right?!
The quick convo got me to thinking about what dudes can do if their girlfriends and wives want to be included. Because if they do want to watch and you don’t make them feel welcome there’s a strong chance that resentment and anger and a real pain in your ass is on the way.
Now, the friend that I was talking to about the subject is also a great hostess and loves to do the game day meals and drinks and all of that good stuff. I’m talking about chili and nachos and fries and beer and EVERYTHING. That makes her the easiest type of woman to invite to watch the game. She’s willing to bring food and drinks and take care of pretty much everything but the remote control while you enjoy all of life’s wonders. If you have this chance gentlemen you are a fool not to take it.
The best way to get that type of girl included and involved in your sports watching traditions is to let it be her idea. Let her be the planner. Let the Type A takeover. In the end it’s all for the best. Do that thing that women do to us all the time and plant the seed and see what happens. The worst case scenario is that you watch the game on the couch alone with beer and pizza, just like you were going to in the first place.
It isn’t always this cut and dry though. There can be downsides to having your female companion accompany you in your viewing time. While she may be very enthusiastic about the opportunity to spend quality time with you or watch the game or just relax there is a possibility that you will be playing teacher. There are some of us that are a lot better at this than others. It can be hard. There’s no debating that at all. It can be a test of patience, love and will-power. But, if you can pull it off. If you can keep your cool and help her out I promise that there is a pot of gold waiting at the end of that rainbow. The questions will gradually become fewer. And as they become fewer they will also become less basic and more interesting. You will be able to explain things in more advanced terms and express your opinions with regards to the situations she’s asking about.
Note: I’m fully aware that there are many, many women out there who love and understand sports and can stat gab and wax poetic about the advantages of a 3-4 defense as opposed to a 4-3. This isn’t about you. Keep up the good work!
The best thing to do is set up some easy to follow ground rules. 1st and most important is that questions need to be held until commercial breaks or time outs. It’s a simple rule, there’s nothing complicated about it. It means that you don’t miss any live game action and she still gets her questions answered. There’s also a chance that by waiting the TV commentary will provide the answer for her and you don’t have to worry about the question at all.
Another ground rule may pertain to channel surfing. This can be incredibly important as during both the regular season and playoffs there’s a strong possibility of multiple games being on at the same time. It is vital that your S.O. knows that you will be changing channels. The sticky part here is that she may not understand why each game is important to you. This is your opportunity to talk about point spreads or fantasy players or even just more intense and entertaining match-ups. Or you can not explain anything and just watch and enjoy the game. If she doesn’t push for information there’s no need for you to volunteer it and make yourself look like a giant geek. It’s not always looked upon as favorably as we hope.
Lastly, I have a recommendation – bet with your girl. Keep it fun. Don’t bet money. And win as much as you can. If she is a novice in the sporting world you have every right to take advantage of that. Go for it. If she knows what she’s talking about you had better bring you’re A game. Because if she starts beating you I can promise that she will tell her friends and your friends and it will not be pretty.
In the end my friends the upside remains a much bigger payoff than the downside is a detriment. There is one last thing that you want to make sure that your lady understands… if game night or Sunday afternoon football or whatever is your decompress, alone, relax, let the world float away time you still deserve to have some of that. Don’t be bitchy about it, but have the conversation with her and explain your position and make sure that all of your sports watching time doesn’t become a couples event.
If you can find the line and make this work I can promise that you will have success. If you don’t we can all blame my friend. It was her idea.
Tuesday, 4 January 2011
I Believe in Carey Price | NHL Canadiens
Originally posted at FanShots as Wally Z
I know that the Montreal Canadiens are in a slump right now. Things aren’t going well and everyone who is paying attention knows that.
However, I still believe that things are still going to be okay.
But more than anything I still believe in Carey Price.
Carey may not be looking great right now, there’s talk about him being slow and lethargic. His puck handling hasn’t been as good as it can be. There have been some weak goals. But he’ll bounce back.
I’m looking at the numbers right now and you know what, they’re still pretty great.
Price still sits atop the NHL with 19 wins, he has the 2nd most shutouts with 4, his save percentage is still .919 and his Goals Against Average is 2.37. These are all numbers that I can live with. In fact, these are all numbers that most people didn’t think were possible when Jaro Halak was traded to St. Louis in the offseason.
The other thing that is worth noting and that people are starting to talk about is the time that he has been on the ice. He’s tied for 1st in the league with 36 starts. He leads all goaltenders with over 2,150 minutes on the ice. He’s 3rd in both Shots Against and Saves Made.
Now, I’m no coach. I don’t know when it’s best for Carey Price to rest. I don’t know how much rest he needs or how much he needs to play to stay sharp or anything like that. But I do know that he’s my #1 goalie. Alex Auld is the back-up. There’s not even an argument to be made when it comes to who the guy is in Montreal. The Canadiens are going to go with Carey Price until the season is over.
Habs fans are hoping that the wins start coming back soon. Right now they don’t even really care who’s in goal when they happen. And with 5 of the next 6 games on the schedule being played at the Bell Centre the time is now for those wins to start coming.
I’ll tell you right here and now that no matter what happens, I won’t stop believing!
I know that the Montreal Canadiens are in a slump right now. Things aren’t going well and everyone who is paying attention knows that.
However, I still believe that things are still going to be okay.
But more than anything I still believe in Carey Price.
Carey may not be looking great right now, there’s talk about him being slow and lethargic. His puck handling hasn’t been as good as it can be. There have been some weak goals. But he’ll bounce back.
I’m looking at the numbers right now and you know what, they’re still pretty great.
Price still sits atop the NHL with 19 wins, he has the 2nd most shutouts with 4, his save percentage is still .919 and his Goals Against Average is 2.37. These are all numbers that I can live with. In fact, these are all numbers that most people didn’t think were possible when Jaro Halak was traded to St. Louis in the offseason.
The other thing that is worth noting and that people are starting to talk about is the time that he has been on the ice. He’s tied for 1st in the league with 36 starts. He leads all goaltenders with over 2,150 minutes on the ice. He’s 3rd in both Shots Against and Saves Made.
Now, I’m no coach. I don’t know when it’s best for Carey Price to rest. I don’t know how much rest he needs or how much he needs to play to stay sharp or anything like that. But I do know that he’s my #1 goalie. Alex Auld is the back-up. There’s not even an argument to be made when it comes to who the guy is in Montreal. The Canadiens are going to go with Carey Price until the season is over.
Habs fans are hoping that the wins start coming back soon. Right now they don’t even really care who’s in goal when they happen. And with 5 of the next 6 games on the schedule being played at the Bell Centre the time is now for those wins to start coming.
I’ll tell you right here and now that no matter what happens, I won’t stop believing!
Monday, 3 January 2011
Fishing With Jesse Barfield, A Dream
Originally posted at FanShots
Last night I had a weird dream. And the reason I’m writing about it right now is that it’s sports related. Now, I’ve had sports dreams in the past. But I’ve always either been dreaming about playing sports or watching sports. This dream was different.
Last night I dreamed that former Toronto Blue Jay and New York Yankee Jesse Barfield came out to my mom’s property out in the country and fished with me while we did some sort of fundraiser.
I have no recollection of what we were fundraising for but there was old Blue Jays merchandise all over the place, some paintings, and old bat or two and a bunch of stuff that I would happily have in my apartment in real life.
The dream was pretty realistic and included Jesse Barfield at his current age of 51, not in his mid-20’s as he I remember watching him in uniform.
I do remember telling people how great Barfield was back in the day. I bragged about how fantastic his arm strength and accuracy was and that he led the American League in outfield assists in 1985, 1986 and 1987. I even remembered to tell the people that he led the Major Leagues in home runs with 40 in 1986.
I also remember doing some fishing. The pond at the property is about 2 acres in size and is stocked with Bass. I don’t remember who pulled more fish out of the water, but it was a good time.
I have no idea where this dream came from. I do plan on running a fundraiser at my mom’s place this summer. But I don’t think Jesse Barfield will be there.
I do find it a little odd that I don’t remember any other baseball players being at the fundraiser. Not even current Blue Jays.
Either way though kids this dream came out of nowhere. Stay tuned to see if I have any more dreams including old all-stars.
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